Keep the bigger picture in mind. Depending on the dose and frequency, substance use can take the user from sober caring, to less caring, to acting carelessly, to becoming care-free, to not caring at all if intoxication or getting wasted occurs. What are some other ways to motivate spiritually apathetic teenagers? Nothing, other than he doesn't agree with his punishment. If you have on-fire leaders you most likely have at least some on-fire teenagers. Signed, Giving Up Dear Giving Up, With your permission I will speak very personally. He grows more and more selfish the older he becomes.
We are on the verge of selling his car and making him take the bus next year. Yes, I agree to a certain extent, but that doesn't make it right. I ask because I'm not the biological father of our 14 year old boy. He's settled in a good job and has been with the same woman for over fifteen years. Recently, a youth pastor asked about some thoughts on how to respond if the youth group is apathetic.
Respondents could pick more than one career. He is the type that is only interested in putting forth the bare minimum. I really needed this counsel to help address a long-time painful dynamic between especially my husband and oldest and adult daughter, but really as a means to help both of us better parent love all of our children. Why on earth would you send someone like this to college? I have two of them aged 27 and 23. Caring for myself is harder because I'm the homemaker, so most childrearing falls to me. If they want to borrow something of yours, they need to give you collateral which you will return when they return the item.
Another impact of substance use on apathy is not caring about consequences and engaging in dangerous risk taking. At that age, kids need the social outlet. He likes band, is there a music store that is looking for summer help? We let them make just about all their own decisions. Ive met a good number of people who had parents that did this when they turned 18. Just to create more distance from you.
It take months, maybe years, to see the seeds you plant begin to have a harvest. We have been on him to get a job. Its in a friendly way though so just laugh it off after they have finished and you can probably tell them about it. You've received some great advice on this thread. He is expected to buy his own food, wash his own clothes which we have been making him do since he was twelve , and do what the boss says.
I didn't have huge issues as a teen but I am a chick , nor did my brother. There is no thought that he is in control of his behavior. Anything less is little more than compulsion. Encourage the Family Sometimes apathy abounds in the whole family. I know the pain of parental disappointment—and even agony. He won't ever do it.
Recognize small victories, and keep pressing forward through doubt and resistance. Ok, a lot of them seem to be lacking in either logos or pathos or both, but there are plenty that don't. A whole lot of damage was done in my teen years. So rather than treating the symptom of spiritually apathetic teens, treat the root. Character and perspective building experiences right there. Have him keep working for you and then in the afternoons he can spend his time looking for another job. Personal Ministry Launch a massive effort of personal ministry to every teen.
So we began to hold his feet to the fire more. None of that language here! High-school was about adventures for me. The hardest part of being a parent is seeing your children experience the consequences of a poor choice and not stepping in to help. If every time he is given any responsibility he is told that he's done a half assed job, then guess what. They are all best friends, and I'm sort of a new comer to the group. They have had to rely on Alicia to do everything for them, even if those decisions she has made has led to the demise of those characters.
Of course there's going to be resentment. Apathy -- indifference to and withdrawal from old interests -- may be rooted in a serious cause such as depression, or it may stem from a natural maturation process. Every parenting tool we are sharing in this is designed to encourage and motivate teens. By this expression of apathy he intends to show the adult world he is no longer wants to be wed to the values of childhood. Everything in that house that is yours, from food, electricity, the house itself. As she nears voting age, the way that she will become interested in getting up and getting out to vote is if she cares about the issues and understands that her vote can make a difference. Youth group gets more exciting, prayers get more fervent, youth group unity solidifies and, of course, Satan counterattacks!.
You and BarryP really tugged at my heartstrings on your advice. This is an example of his mindset and attitude: He is responsible for taking his younger brother to school same campus. For a young child, a promise of ice cream in exchange for guitar practice is enough; for a teen, such external rewards are not as meaningful as the internal vision of becoming a rock star or of mastering a challenging solo. But they just seem so apathetic. So rather than measuring their interest level and participation in church, maybe we should be measuring something else and putting a different system in place besides programs and fun events to help them get there. Try to work through the parents to strengthen the home. He and Debbie have been married for 24 years.